Comments on: Good intentions, wrong words http://www.laeliasky.com/2008/06/26/good-intentions-wrong-words/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 02:38:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Melissa Rowe http://www.laeliasky.com/2008/06/26/good-intentions-wrong-words/#comment-342 Melissa Rowe Sat, 05 Jul 2008 20:20:23 +0000 http://www.laeliasky.com/2008/06/26/good-intentions-wrong-words/#comment-342 I liked reading this post - to be more aware. It's funny how some people just don't really think about what is behind the things they are really saying, yet sometimes overthinking can have the same affect (me). There's gotta be a bridge between carelessness and caution, kind of interesting to think about. "I realize now–and this is the point–that it’s not my responsibility to see the bright side for other people." That is a good point to realize... I have had to coach myself with it when I realized some years ago that I walk around with a guilty conscience - always so fearful of offense or just anything. You might have even noticed that I always make sure people know my husband is being sarcastic, as if people don't know Steve. :) I apologize a lot for things that don't have to do with me... it's a really limiting way to live. I've grown a lot, but still struggle with fear. While it's not a bad thing to please people, there is always a context - and always a way to corrupt an initial good thing. Anyway - I think I've rabbit trailed, but that is why I like reading your blog - you always provoke thought. That sounds obvious, but it's good to be inspired to think in a society like ours ;) Hope you guys are having a good weekend - Melissa I liked reading this post - to be more aware. It’s funny how some people just don’t really think about what is behind the things they are really saying, yet sometimes overthinking can have the same affect (me). There’s gotta be a bridge between carelessness and caution, kind of interesting to think about.

“I realize now–and this is the point–that it’s not my responsibility to see the bright side for other people.”

That is a good point to realize… I have had to coach myself with it when I realized some years ago that I walk around with a guilty conscience - always so fearful of offense or just anything. You might have even noticed that I always make sure people know my husband is being sarcastic, as if people don’t know Steve. :) I apologize a lot for things that don’t have to do with me… it’s a really limiting way to live. I’ve grown a lot, but still struggle with fear. While it’s not a bad thing to please people, there is always a context - and always a way to corrupt an initial good thing.

Anyway - I think I’ve rabbit trailed, but that is why I like reading your blog - you always provoke thought. That sounds obvious, but it’s good to be inspired to think in a society like ours ;) Hope you guys are having a good weekend -

Melissa

]]> By: Kristin Hetrick http://www.laeliasky.com/2008/06/26/good-intentions-wrong-words/#comment-335 Kristin Hetrick Fri, 27 Jun 2008 06:42:02 +0000 http://www.laeliasky.com/2008/06/26/good-intentions-wrong-words/#comment-335 Thanks for this post. It's what's been on my mind a lot lately, like when people say to me "You know, you should look at the bright side, they are making great advances with CF. people are now living into their 30's" Since I'm in my late 30's and I haven't really lived yet, it's not all that comforting....but statement always said by well meaning. really nice people. BTW....how about a get together?? Kristin Thanks for this post. It’s what’s been on my mind a lot lately, like when people say to me “You know, you should look at the bright side, they are making great advances with CF. people are now living into their 30’s” Since I’m in my late 30’s and I haven’t really lived yet, it’s not all that comforting….but statement always said by well meaning. really nice people.

BTW….how about a get together??

Kristin

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