Childcare

Laelia’s day at the park with Bryant.

Haha, boy cooties!
Lali has been enjoying spending time with Phyllis while Charley and I try to figure out this childcare situation. Right now we’re driving to El Cajon everyday to drop her off and pick her up. She seems to love it there. We had other options, but none I trusted last minute like I would with Phyllis. It turned out our other potentional babysitter (also in El Cajon) got jury duty for a long while and isn’t available. So that’s where we’re at still.
I got brave and attempted posting on Craigslist again for people in our area who could stay at our apartment with her. Despite the one jerky person (who should read this), we’ve gotten a few interested people. So far no one has been willing to do the stretches, but I’ve been doing them after work and then Chelsea (and now Lauren on Wednesday) does them again at 4:00pm. So even though it’s not ideal, it’s working okay. Laelia’s right wrist has frozen up, and that worries me. I think I can get it loose again with some double-time stretching this weekend. It’s crazy that my daughter’s body does it’s own thing like that! So if I do find a sitter, even though I’m not requiring it, it would be WONDERFUL if they would stretch her.
I’ve been nervous about meeting new people who could potentially affect my daughter’s life in positive or negative ways. I just don’t know these people, and for the first time in my life, strangers scare me. Well I’m specifically talking about potential nannies. I plan on calling references and doing my homework, but it’s still scary. I also feel awkward asking these nannies personal questions, but it’s important that I know if their religion will affect something they might do around my daughter or if their first husband’s sister who just got out of jail may hunt them down or something.
Hmm, paranoid much?
I’ve just been so lucky to have a great system of friends, long-distance family and wonderful YMCA respite workers. I have people who have offered to help in a crisis. I have friends learning Lali’s stretches. The nursery at church has never once balked at caring for her. It’s been nice, even comfortable.
Come back comfort zone!
Let’s face it, it’s 2:45AM and I can’t sleep because I just got emails from a couple people interested in watching Lali while I’m at work–people who sound wonderful, but are different than what I expected. So why am I so scared? Maybe it’s the unknown. What could happen. I’ve thought the worst! I didn’t know my brain could go places like that, and I certainly didn’t surface unscathed.
I didn’t even want a nanny! I wanted to put my normal child in a normal daycare and continue with my normal life! But NOT ONE DAYCARE IN SAN DIEGO will take her! They claim it’s a liability issue. Because Lali couldn’t defend herself, they wouldn’t be able to stop the other kids from hurting her… since they are ostensibly impotent!
*sigh*
So that leaves my happy, good-tempered, wonderful baby (I should add all that to the ad)
looking for a wonderful nanny who will work for bread crumbs.
Here’s her ad on Craigslist: http://sandiego.craigslist.org/csd/kid/856627203.html
I have to decide if I want someone “looking for childcare experience” or to pay a little more for someone with said experience.
I’m praying that I can find someone who has childcare experience but wants special needs experience. Some people do because it looks good on resumes.
Cross your fingers!
September 28th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
If you’re still needing help, I’m available. Let me know what you need help with. We live over by MCRD Off of Pacific Coast Highway.
September 28th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
I suggest looking at your local college that teaches early childhood development - at least when I took my classes up here, there were always a number of ladies in there looking for work part-time while they finished their classes. Plus, often you will find a specific special ed class being taught that you might find someone persuing special ed as a career…..maybe even become friendly with the instructor of those classes to get a recommendation from them….just an idea…plus, if they ever have worked in a preschool or such, they would have been bonded and fingerprinted by the state of CA! I wish we lived closer
September 29th, 2008 at 9:32 am
i will keep her as long as you need me too.. i know coming all the way out here stinks.. and if i could i would come there.. its just soo hectic here now with bryant going to school opposite rylee.. i will learn the streches..
when bryant saw the pictures.. he said.. i love baby laelia.. i have the sweetest kid. he really does love her.. as i told charley.. i am just adult supervision.. he is actually the one who takes care of her..lmoa!!
September 30th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
Hello!
I came across your blog because I am researching my name for a Creative Writing paper. My name is LAELIA!!!!! How do you pronounce your daughter’s name? My dad named me because he is a horticulturist and his favorite orchids are Laelias. My name is pronouned as if the first part rhymes with “pail” or “flail”….like this…”lail-ee-uh”. I have never come across anyone else with my name so I was very surprised. I am 24 and studying at the UNiversity of Arizona, majoring in Creative Writing with a minor in horse studies. I am a Christian too! Did you know the flower was named after a Greek Vestal Virgin who died in Pompeii? The Vestal Virgins devoted their lives to serving in a temple until they were 30 and they were highly respected. Obviously I don’t follow the goddess Vesta…haha…but I thought it was interesting because I have dedicated my life to serving Christ and your Laelia is being brought up with Christian parents. It seems like Laelias all throughout history have been very spiritual people. Sorry, maybe you don’t care to hear me blab on and on. Anyway, I will pray for your daughter…a fellow Laelia(!) and for you too! I will pray that your daughter will grow up to serve the Lord with her whole heart as well.